In the dynamic landscape of modern business, emotional intelligence plays a key role to success. That's a given, and everybody talks about it.
Training and practicing it, though, it's a different beast.
It requires daily application, an action-ready approach and a proven system.
That's what we provide.
One can have an inspiring vision, the best product, awesome marketing, a B$ business plan, lots of capital and even the most positive mindset...
but if they are not actually training their brain to harness their emotions, it's like driving a beautiful car with an engine assembled at random.
Would you ever do that?
This is what it might look like in your day to day...
Do you often find yourself:
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Emotionally overwhelmed
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Doubting you'll be able to withstand this level of pressure long-term
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Going through emotional ups-and-downs
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Having a hard time making decisions
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Emotionally cold and detached
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Stuck in a "fixer" or "problem solver" mindset that ends up creating more problem than it actually solves
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Judgmental, inadvertently hurting others including the people you care the most about
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Short-tempered - which is odd because in general you're a patient person
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Having a sense of emptiness, of being out of touch with yourself and others
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Intensely self-critical and perfectionistic
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Lonely
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Having a hard being flexible
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Having a hard time with change
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Acting impulsively and doing things you later regret
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Having a hard time accepting negative feedback - and often even positive ones!
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At times being flooded with empathy and other times being strangely insensitive
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Having intense feeling of shame and anxiety that get in the way of your bold vision
Does this sound familiar?
If yes, Emotion Training can make a huge difference in your life and in your business.
Here is why...
The 9 ways in which Emotion Training drives business success:
Right now, you stand at a crossroad where you have to write the next chapter of your life and your business...
You are here because:
If that's you, there is a step-by-step path that precisely addresses what you're looking for...
Introducing the
EFFICACY FOCUSED
EMOTION TRAINING
Skill-based
A system of over 70 implementation-ready emotion skills that seamlessly weave into your day to knock your life out of the park. A skill is something that you can deliberately use, that you get better at as you practice and that predictably generates great results. If you ever enjoyed practicing and getting good at something, you'll be amazed at how emotion mastery is no different.
Goal-focused
You'll set specific high-impact goals of your choice. I'll guide you step by step using a process that combines emotional depth and analysis. You'll be able to see the difference, measure the results and celebrate your progress along the way. There is little use in learning fanciful techniques that have zero application when the rubber hits the road. Your daily actions is where the magic happens.
4 levels, 12 weeks each
The training is broken down in 4 levels. Every level is exhilarating in its own right and will take you to specific outcomes. Every level is spread over 12 weeks, with 8 weeks focused on learning the new skillset and the remaining 4 weeks for consolidation. When you're ready for more, you sign up for the next level. Emotion mastery is like learning a sport or a music instrument. You start from the foundations and build up. The better you get, the more you want to get better.
With support
You'll need to put in the work, but you'll also have amazing support, in four different formats: 1 - Weekly videos with clear guidance on the use of each skill; 2 - Weekly live group coaching calls for in-depth troubleshooting related to the implementation of the skills in your life; 3 - Community support with other fellow trainees who will celebrate your successes and hold each other accountable; 4 - Systems for tracking your daily implementation of the skills, so that you can tell if you're doing the reps or not and troubleshoot from there.
Deep
Emotion regulation is more than taking a deep breath and telling yourself that everything is going to be okay. You'll learn how to examine the hidden workings of your mind as if under a microscope, seeing clearly what's going on. You'll practice fully embracing the puzzling and often contradictory complexity of reality without being overwhelmed by it.
Science-based
The training is grounded in the most research-backed method for the development of emotion regulation skills, called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). DBT was originally developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan, PhD, as a therapy for the treatment of severe emotional dysregulation. One of its components is the set of skills that forms the backbone of this program. According to Dr. Linehan herself, the skills can be taught and used effectively outside the therapy context for individuals who don't necessarily need therapy but rather are looking to improve their quality of life. As a scientist myself, I have immense appreciation for the decades of work of clinical validation that backs up this model and that in my view sets it apart from everything else available out there.
WHAT PEOPLE SAY
This morning I jumped out of bed, so excited to get going with the strategies and systems we put so very carefully in place over the weekend. I have not felt this energized, alive and joyful since Covid began, a full ten months ago! I am so happy and grateful I decided to attend this course and have promised myself this invaluable gift every year, as long as you offer it! Your gentleness, patience yet firmness in guiding us, with encouragement, humor and incredibly precise language offer a solid, grounded foundation from which we can take flight. I have never felt this kind of elation and excitement when committing to a goal and knowing with unequivocal certainty that it will be realized, since success is guaranteed. I am in awe and overflowing with gratitude and joy. Thank you Nicolo and the entire group, looking forward to the weekly check-ins! I encourage everyone to experience this class and make sure you tell your friends. 2031.... I am on my way!"
Lisa Marcovici
Meet the founder:
Nicolò F. Bernardi, PhD, ACC
I've coached over a thousand individuals in building solid emotion skills to effectively perform in high-stress and high-stakes situations. Of those, several hundreds were top performers with high emotion sensitivity (curious what that is? check that out below). My understanding of the science of emotions comes not from having read self-help books (though I read and enjoy those too), but from 15 years in the trenches conducting cognitive neuroscience experiments on the neural mechanisms of learning and brain-body interactions.
But first and foremost, I am myself a person with big emotions who used to shut them down, disconnect from my body and try to logic my way through life. Remember those bullet points at beginning about the person who often struggles with emotions? That was me.
Shutting down my emotions worked to some extent. For some time I had success in pretty much anything I put my heart to. Until I didn't. My body broke down first. Then important relationships fell apart. Finally my career.
I'm grateful for every piece of that journey of deconstruction. It's what lead me to become an entrepreneur. I had to learn and practice myself every single skill that I'm going to teach you. Those skills actually worked. Today I feel healthy and strong. I'm married with two wonderful children. I have a loving connection with my family and friends - which doesn't mean we always agree. I do what I love for a living and I look forward to continue doing it for the next 80 years.
It took me a couple of decades to get here. I can help you get there a lot faster.
"Wait! What is this being highly sensitive all about?"
Keep on reading...
"I'm having five emotions at the same time!"
Or: "Emotions? Nope. I don't do them".
The Emotion Sensitivity Piece
Since you can remember, you have experienced emotions more strongly than most people.
For example...
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Have you every noticed that you process events more deeply than others, noticing details and layers that others seem to be oblivious to?
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Do you intuitively pick up subtle emotion cues in the environment that others miss?
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Does it ever happen to you that your emotions come out of the blue and hit you like a ton of bricks?
Me too. And we're not alone. In the scientific literature this is referred to as Sensory Processing Sensitivity, and in pop culture it has become known as being "a highly sensitive person" (HSP). It's a personality trait, not a disease or something esoteric. To a large extent, you were born like this. It's partly in our genes. It's a characteristic that shows up on a continuum with approximately 20% of the population being on the higher end of the spectrum.
Let me be clear on one thing:
It's a gift.
It's a huge part of what prompted you to become an entrepreneur, because you feel problems more deeply and you can see opportunities where others see limitations. Understanding your sensitivity, owning it and using it to your advantage is going to be instrumental to your success.
However, the path to a thriving life looks different for a HSP compared to the remaining 80% of the population.
These are the two key ingredients you need:
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Understanding what it means and accepting that this is part of who you are;
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Training emotion skills, stronger and more flexible compared to people who are relatively less sensitive.
And this takes us to the next chapter in the story of how we got here...
The Mismatch Piece
Instead of acceptance and strong emotion skills, important people in your life may have given you the message that your feelings are wrong, weird, bad or "too much".
They may have ignored, punished or reinforced your emotional reactions without providing you with effective coaching. They may have frequently resorted to shame and emotional detachment instead (alternatively, they may have showered you with unconditional love but have no idea about how to teach you effective emotion regulation skills!). The default culture that assumes entrepreneurs to overwork themselves while shutting their emotions down has likely doubled down on all of this.
We're going to leave judgment and blame out of this. These people in your life were doing the best they could and likely they did every bit of it from love. What matters right now is: it happened, it left a gap and that gap is the cause of lots of your troubles. Most importantly, if you leave this gap unaddressed it's going to stay with you and your business as a massive liability, threatening to precipitate you into burnout at any point in the near future. You probably already had a taste of some of that, am I right?
The great news is: You can totally fill that gap.
Emotion regulation is not magic. It's a learnable skill. It's going to take some work, but it's going to be exhilarating, healing, radically empowering.
Here is something for you to take to heart: strong and flexible emotion regulation skills are very useful to anybody but they are necessary if you are part of the 20% of people with the highly sensitive trait. This is due to the sheer intensity of the emotional, mental and sensory overwhelm, and how little all of that is understood by most people around you. For us, it's not only a matter of high performance, it goes way deeper than that. For some it can be a matter of life and death, and I mean that literally.